Dexter
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Post by Dexter on Jul 5, 2014 10:09:07 GMT -5
We missed the picnic which is a shame because I would have found it very informative. We adopted Super C Joker who now goes by the name Dexter. He is my shadow, he follows me everywhere. He wants nothing to do with my husband, refuses to look at him. If my husband is talking to him Dexter will actually turn his head and eventually his whole body so he can avoid making eye contact with my husband, but me he can't get enough of, he has to be touching me at all time. With our son Dexter has had a "I could care less" attitude. He doesn't complain when our son plays with him, he will make eye contact, he gets excited when Zeph gets home from school and tries to play which, unfortunately, involves nipping, but really, he is my dog, or I should say, I am Dexter's person.
We have now had Dexter for just over 4 months. He will now take a treat from my husband, but still doesn't want to make eye contact with him. He still follows me everywhere but does not require physical contact with me all the time. The amazing thing I want to share is our son recently had a nightmare. Dexter crawled across Zeph's bed and nosed him so Zeph would know Dex was there. Dexter spent the rest of the night with Zepherin, didn't leave his side, even to be with me.
I know Dexter's relationship with my husband is a matter of time, he is leery of all men. But his protective nature with our son is what warms my heart. Dexter picked us, is was so obvious from the moment we saw him, we were meant to be his family.
Now I just have to figure out how to feed him and to get him to play and we will be set.
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Post by Mag's Mom on Jul 5, 2014 14:51:36 GMT -5
This is our situation with Magnify. Although he doesn't do this so much with my husband, with our sons (young men), he actually takes off and puts himself in his crate... He is happy to go for a walk with them, but still prefers me the best (which is totally ok with me, but makes our boys feel bad,
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troysmom
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Post by troysmom on Jul 5, 2014 19:16:40 GMT -5
So nice to hear Dexter loves your son. My pups in general stick by me as well. I do most of the walks and the feeding. Maybe it will help if your husband takes him on more walks and gives him his food at meal times. When I brought Jed home he wasn't too kin with the husband either and he was hesitant to go on walks without me. Over several months it got better and better. I find that after just over a year he is still changing and settling in for the better. Glad to hear that you love Dexter and willing to give him the time he needs with the hubby.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2014 21:04:58 GMT -5
Nothing professional here, just my experience but most definately I see a difference between the bond of Ron versus myself. Even thou Ron is usually the one to put them out last at night, often feeding the late day feed, I am the one out all day with them, calling, correcting, picking up their poop, grooming, filling the doggie pool etc. you get the picture! Unlike my own human kids, it seems like I'm the hero here! . I can't say I understand it all but...in some weird way, the dogs respond to the louder, more outspoken human in our house! Just my thoughts, my personal experience, that's all! M
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Dexter
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Post by Dexter on Jul 6, 2014 10:23:13 GMT -5
Secretly, I love that He loves me best.
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Post by newtothis1 on Jul 6, 2014 11:12:47 GMT -5
Just give it time he will eventually come around with your husband. It is so great that he helped your son through with nightmare. They are very secretive creatures and only he know why he shy with your husband. Patience works every time. All i know is that no one told me I would have a cold wet nose stuck to me forever once I adopted a greyhound. But I wouldn't have it any other way.
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aeiou
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Post by aeiou on Jul 9, 2014 8:36:01 GMT -5
They respond to the one who leads the pack. For most folks I know, that means the woman is the head and the dogs respond to that. My pack has always treated hubby like one of them, so as a result, most of the dogs are more attached to me. It's funny because I speak, they listen... hubby speaks, they look to me before listening (he's made sure he's second in command). LOL I'd have your husband do more of the care of Dexter. Walking him, giving him treats, feeding him. This will help him see your husband as more of a leader and less of a pack member, but you're right, it will take time. This will at least get Dexter to trust him, if nothing else I too relish being at their centre so perhaps it's nice to guard that position for a little while anyway... Mouthing or knitting (nipping or pinching with their front teeth) when playing is normal for these guys. My newest, Beamish, likes to mouth when he plays with us. A gentle, but firm "ah ah" when he starts on gets him to stop. Use stuffed toys to redirect Dexter's excitement. Congrats on adopting Dexter
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Dexter
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Post by Dexter on Jul 9, 2014 10:06:24 GMT -5
Good to know about the mouthing or we call it nipping. Dexter did not seem like he was angry, quite the contrary, he was excited and trying to join in on the play with my son and I. Unfortunately he nipped at our son's arm leaving a mark. Zeph cried and Dexter froze not sure what to do, then slowly backed away with his head and tail down. I actually felt worse for Dexter (I Know, bad human mom) because he was just playing and didn't understand what happened but knew he had hurt Zeph. I had to work at sitting on the floor with Zeph in my lap and call Dexter over and the both of us pet him to let him know he was not in trouble. After that I purposely created situations that would get Dexter excited so I would have the opportunity to redirect the nipping or even stop it. It may not have been the right way of doing it but now when Zeph and I get rough housing Dexter will go and get his hedgehog stuffy and bring it to us or go crazy on the hedgehog right next to us. What do I know. I was just telling someone else on this site that my life has become about puppy poop inspections. But I would not change it.
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Post by angelollie on Jul 9, 2014 19:24:43 GMT -5
Dexter .... It sounds like you have a very special boy there. I love how you are determined to make all this work and I think you are well on your way. Very touched by Dexter being there for your son .... greyhounds love their families. Enjoy your velcro hound .....
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