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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2014 6:54:24 GMT -5
I have been reading all your words over and over today. I appreciate the time you have taken to offer your understanding and empathy. It is so comforting to me. I am going to continue rereading all your advice and stories. I am really thankful I have this forum to turn to for support. It's really hard. I can't go 5 minutes without breaking into tears. I never ever could have imagined how wonderful my greyhound would be. She was extraordinarily sweet, loving and fun. My heart would melt whenever I looked at her; her beauty always took my breath away. I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. But you will, one day Hopper. it' absolutely ok to be going thru what you're feeling. Just know, we're all here for you. And if I may ask, what is your name? Martha
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Post by twentythree on Mar 24, 2014 8:37:10 GMT -5
I am so sorry that you have lost your beautiful girl Sparrow. I also lost one of my greyhounds Annie two months ago (at the age of 6) suddenly due to a very unfortunate "accident". It is devastating to lose one of these wonderful creatures and everyone here on the forum completely understands the pain that you are feeling, unfortunately people that have never had a greyhound just don't get the grief that you are feeling. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I too still shed tears over Annie and find certain things will trigger it. I just keep trying to remember that I gave her a loving home that she otherwise may have never had. Please try and take care of yourself.....time passed does help.....maybe at some point you can open your heart to another greyhound....I am not there yet myself. Everyone grieves in different ways...please find comfort in knowing that all of us greyhound people are grieving right along with you................... Jane
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Post by lotsoffreetime on Mar 24, 2014 11:23:36 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl, Sparrow. Her beauty shines through not only her picture, but your words about her.
I am also deeply saddened by your grief over her loss. I echo what others have already said about grieving the loss of our loved ones, how losing them is like losing a part of our family, because that is what they are. I lost my heart-dog, Kasie Lynn almost years ago, and although she wan't a greyhound, I had the privilege of sharing my life with her for over 14 years (I rescued her when she was 18 months old), and she was a very special dog. I thought losing her would crush me…I can honestly say, that now, 4 years later, my husband and the kids and I still all talk about her frequently, but now it is with smiles and laughter more often than with tears. You will get there, too.
People may tell you that you will "get over" the loss of Sparrow. That is simply not true. You don't "get over grief"….you get through it. One day at a time. Sometimes it is one minute at a time. Grief can be like the edge of a knife, very sharp and painful at first, but it dulls over time…
Please remember, no matter how sad and lost you feel now, there is love all around you, and that will help pull you and your family through. hugs to you and your family.
Janette
Run free like the wind with the other Angels, Sweet Sparrow…and keep watch over your family.
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Post by twentythree on Mar 24, 2014 13:57:21 GMT -5
Hello Hopper.......I have sent you a personal message..............jane
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scarletta
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Post by scarletta on Mar 25, 2014 8:51:44 GMT -5
Reading all of these stories in this thread is both heart wrenching and beautiful at the same time. Firstly, let me say how sorry I am for your great loss of Sparrow. You KNOW she was loved and cared for and SHE knows it too. I truly believe our beloved children are always with us even once they go to the bridge. I have lost a few in my time and recently my kitty of close to 18 years went to the bridge last year. I just woke up and he was sleeping peacefully and didn't wake up. It was and still is devastating but it does get better. However, because of his passing it got me to this path in life and now I have my beautiful boy Onyx to love and cherish. Both my kitty and my boy Onyx are black with a white chest so I feel somehow they are connected in an odd way. It is these little things that can help bring you out of the dark place you are in now. I found the following to be very helpful although it made me cry buckets it helped me to move on and adopt the wonderful addition to my life that Onyx is. My love and positive thoughts are with you.
A Dog’s Last Will & Testament
Before humans die, they write their last will and testament, giving their home and all they have to those they leave behind. If, with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I’d ask…
To a poor and lonely stray I’d give my happy home; my bowl and cozy bed, soft pillow and all my toys; the lap, which I loved so much; the hand that stroked my fur; and the sweet voice that spoke my name.
I’d will to the sad, scared shelter dog the place I had in my human’s loving heart, of which there seemed no bounds.
So, when I die, please do not say, “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and the pain is more than I can stand.”
Instead, go find an unloved dog, one whose life has held no joy or hope, and give my place to him.
This is the only thing I can give…
The love I left behind.
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Post by Sally Blossom on Mar 25, 2014 17:31:01 GMT -5
Dear Hopper:
I am saddened to read about your loss, and as many others have mentioned I too have also been there in sending my pups to the bridge. It was hard and to this day I still get a "lump" in my throat when I think of them (but with a smile on my face as they left behind so many beautiful memories). Scarletta's poem says it all:
"So, when I die, please do not say, “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and the pain is more than I can stand.” Instead, go find an unloved dog, one whose life has held no joy or hope, and give my place to him. This is the only thing I can give… The love I left behind"
Shadow would love another pup to warm your heart and give you unconditional love like she gave to you. Your Greyhound Family will always be with you in helping you cope with your loss. Just look up at the stars to-night and Shadow's will be the brightest one up there and she will guide you.
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Stellasmom
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Post by Stellasmom on Mar 25, 2014 19:54:54 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss when we lost our Misti our first greyhound I don't think any of us stopped crying for a long time.we made the mistake of not getting another for a long time We took three years to get a new dog that was our Tucker our chihuahua Then five years later my son was going to see Bill for his forever grey He took me his Mom for support that's when I walked in and saw our Stella We told Bill we did not want black because that's what our Misti was before we went to see the dogs .guess what our Stella is all black.We came home with two greys that day last summer and now I say I will never go without and wish we had done it sooner Our Stella and April (my sons grey) have healed our hearts we can talk about our Misti now with a smile because she was so special and perfect these two have a lot to live up to but we know she is watching over them to help them
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Post by mjgrey on Mar 25, 2014 20:21:21 GMT -5
Not sure if you've seen the poem 'A Dog's Legacy". It may bring you some comfort. If you google that phrase , you'll be able to find it. I am very sorry for your loss.
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lanlove
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Post by lanlove on Mar 26, 2014 1:16:41 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. I, like several others on the site know how you feel. It is extremely difficult, I was 4 months pregnant with my first child when my doberman, Tyson, died in my arms of a heart attack (dilated cardiomyopathy, my brother even did CPR on him but to no avail). He was only 6.5 years old but was my everything. My children never met Tyson but we talk about him often and they know how special he was to me. I see some of Tyson in my Lanny too and it makes me smile. Dogs are good for the soul even if they can't share our entire lives with us. Coming to this site to talk to other like minded grey lovers was certainly a wise thing to do and sharing our stories of loss helps our continued healing too. Know that we are all greiving along with you. Sparrow's beauty will live on in your heart forever.
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Post by angelollie on Mar 26, 2014 12:58:55 GMT -5
Hopper, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl Sparrow. I think losing one of these sweet hounds is the worst pain ever, death is so final leaving your heart and soul trying to make sense of the loss you are trying to cope with. I'm glad that you turned to the greyhound forum as we here all understand and feel the pain you are going through. I wish it were possible to take some of your pain away ....
How long does this pain last .... although you will always feel the loss of Sparrow, those feelings will become less painful. I lost my 5 yr old greyhound (Frankie) last August and although I felt such a desperate feeling of loss for some time, I can now look at his photos and keep his memories close to my heart. There isn't a day in my life that I don't think of my sweet boy nor the greyhounds that have passed prior to him. Each one has given me such joy and unconditional love and I know I gave the same to them. They are my heart and soul both in life and death.
Hopefully one day you will be ready to bring another sweet hound into your life ... you would be amazed how that new soul will help you heal, and maybe even help you smile again.
Please feel free to talk to any of us here on the forum .... talking about it is good and all part of the grieving. Hugs to you and your family. Shari
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OwnedBySummer
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Post by OwnedBySummer on Mar 31, 2014 17:38:52 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is.
I'm not religious yet I find this to be beautiful. Perhaps it will help a little.
I just wanted to let you know that I made it home. The journey wasn't an easy one, but it didn't take too long. Everything is so pretty here, so white, so fresh and new, I wish that you could close your eyes and that you could see it too. Please try not to be sad for me. Try to understand God is taking care of me...I'm in the shelter of His hands. Here there is no sadness, no sorrow, and no pain. Here there is no crying and I'll never hurt again. Here it is so peaceful when all the angels sing. I really have to go for now... I've just got to try my wings.
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Post by Mag's Mom on Apr 5, 2014 16:33:36 GMT -5
Our Church just recently had a seminar on losing a pet, and it was mentioned that The University of Guelph has a Pet Loss Support Hotline. I did not know this when we lost our long time friend two years ago, but maybe this might be some help for some who wish to talk to someone. Here's the link: www.ovc.uoguelph.ca/petloss/about/We also read some exerpts from some of these books which we all found to be helpful too. Pet Loss: A Thoughtful Guide for Adults and Children by Herbert A. Nieburg
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